Do You See Your Body Like This?
She cried out “My legs are too big in the photo!” But, I pointed out; your legs aren’t in the photo. “I know”, she replied, “ but they would have been.”
It’s an extreme expression of a widespread struggle. The conflict of how you see yourself compared to how the world sees you. They so often don’t align.
Louise Audrey struck a social media cord with her “What you see What I see” photo. In a moment of honesty and bravery, she labeled her bikini glamour photo with mirror comments. She could have been in boudoir, lingerie or nude, the result would have been the same.
Most of the headlines for her image and story scream “This Photo Nails The Way Women Criticize Their Bodies.” Perhaps more over the top than is needed but her comments about herself and her issues with her flaws are honest.
Below is her Instagram post with her comments.
She explains she preaches self-love but she still struggles with pictures of herself. It’s a hypocritical approach the mind seems quite comfortable with. When looking at other women’s photos she first sees all of their assets, their great features. With her own images: boom! right to the flaws, be they real or imagined. They are all blown out of proportion in a way her mind immediately accepts as real.
Magnifying the problem is the huge number of photos taken of women, mostly taken badly, which seem to focus on flaws. It is hard to focus on loving yourself with them streaming at you.
After photography over 5,000 women, I have found that as important as the final image is, professionally done without massive body alterations in Photoshop, it is the experience of getting there. It anchors the validation of personal beauty found in the images. In that process is the real and valid sense of control, of being part of the creation of their image.
One thing I share with my clients is perspective. Any time they encounter a bad photograph of themselves it is always the photographer’s fault. He/she picked the lens, the light, the moment, the pose. Every time they see an amazing image of themselves, it was them delivering that special moment, that piece of themselves in the moment the photographer took it.
There should be some rose color glasses invented so people could see themselves as those who love them do. It would be a startling realization.
So, when you look at an image of yourself, what do you see? Just the flaws? Just the assets? A healthy mix? Leave a comment on what you see.
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