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Some milestones you see coming. They are set out there on the horizon, solid and waiting. Like the milestone birthdays, 20,25,30,40, 50 and so on. The same with anniversaries. Graduating university or collage. There are lots, and they should all be celebrated, marked, and treasured.

But . . . there are those that sneak up. Some you know you are going to arrive at, just not when. The job advancement, a relationship solidifying. Then some just come out of the blue, unexpected.

Milestones are not always welcome, not always happy or rejoiceful.

Sometimes, though, you don’t really appreciate them, or how they define you, until you look back.

The best way to hold a milestone moment is with something tangible. Whenever you look at it, you connect with not just that one thing, but with everything swirling around it. Tiny droplets of things that filled the moment or were near to it. It becomes a memory trigger.

For example, I teach overseas a lot. A gig in England wrapped up. On a spur of the moment I did a dash for an overnight visit to Paris with a friend. It was a whirlwind trip, with some amazing images. (Hey, I am a photographer, so it sneaks in). My milestone marker for that is a subway ticket, little holograms on it, bright orange. When I look at it, so much rushes back – my friendship, the trip, the sights, the sound of the river as I photographed the Eiffel Tower. (That one you can see at the new marklaurie.com gallery)

I love hearing about our client’s milestones. Some are so exciting, some are tragic. Some are just mild excuses to get in front of my camera. It is so interesting to be part of them, to be aware of them.

Milestones are really about transitions – not quite forks in the road, but suddenly the path is different.

When you find yourself passing through a transition moment, find something to hook it to.

This week is a window on a transition for us. A dear team member has found a new exciting path to explore. You likely have not seen her, she is my virtual right hand. A near invisible hand that has been helping us shape Inner Spirit and our vision. I think it’s going to take three people to replace her. Her uniqueness, I don’t think we can.

We will miss her, probably more than she will know, but it was so exciting to have expertise grow us. I will have a week to find the milestone marker for her moment with us. I do have a cool photograph of her, surrounded by those dearest to her.

As your moments pass, find a milestone, a marker. Something that will always put them in reach for you. It’s even stronger if you identify for others as it gives them perspective to your path, what has mattered to you.

Milestone markers – they deepen your connection to the moments that have defined you. What’s yours?

Posted by: Mark Laurie

World-renown photoartist Mark Laurie of Inner Spirit Photography specializes in Female Portraiture: nudes, boudoir, prenatal & fine art. His empowering images of women reveal their heart & soul.