What Demi Lovato Going Nude in Vanity Fair Means to You.
(It’s her empowerment last step.)
Demi Lovato went completely nude in a way few celebrities have or are willing to. (I’ll explain that in a bit.) On the surface it appears to be just another pop star getting contrived attention to sell something, boost popularity, etc. Not so here. This was clearly not the case, her reasons are fascinating, the process spontaneous and to her complete surprise, totally empowering.
He had just died, the man Demi considered the most important person in her life, her great- grandfather Buddy Moore, less than 24 hours earlier. She was in the final stages of prepping the launch of her most personally reflective CD. And she was till reeling from the earlier death of her beloved dog Buddy. (I can relate to that.) Demi was literally in a moment of great personal change.
My psychiatrist friend, Dr. Brown, would call it predictable. He had studied all my clients for a year. Finding that to the woman, they were in the middle of, going through or coming out of great personal change. Whether they realized it or not. There is a crystal moment when they have the urge to have a nude session done. At that moment, with those emotions, the session is incredibly empowering.
They may still be scared, nervous or perhaps cocky. They have reasons layered on top of it.
This was Demi Lovato’s headspace as she dragged her exhausted, emotionally drained body from the airport to her Greenwich Hotel room. She was there to meet with the Philymack talent management team about the CD launch. It was midnight.
The Vanity Fair photographer, Patrick Ecclesine, was not there to photograph Demi, but was lensing Phil McIntrye the CEO of the team.
Demi had her hair pulled back travel style, not even a blush of makeup on, talking about her loss. When suddenly her eyes lit up with her idea.
“If there’s one thing I’ve learned in the past days, it’s that life is too short,” she said. “I’m about to launch an album that finally represents who I truly am.”
“How do I embrace this new chapter in my life? How do I really walk the walk? What does it mean to be confident? It means letting go, being authentic, saying I don’t give a fuck and this is who I am. I want to show the side of me that’s real, that’s liberated, that’s free.”
“What if we do a photo shoot where it’s totally raw? Super-sexy, but no makeup, no fancy lighting, no retouching, and no clothing. Let’s do it here, let’s do it now.”
The surprised photographer nodded; everyone left but him and her assistant. She stood up, undressed; they roamed the room until 3am. Barely speaking, using only the most basic lighting he happened to have. Vanity Fair has a slide show of her images here.
As it wrapped up she hugged him, thanking him for making her feel pretty.
Afterward, she went one step further, talking to Vanity Fair, in this video )talking about the experience and the reasons behind it.
Looking back at it, she amazed herself. “You know, that says – I never would’ve thought I’d get to a point in my life where I ‘d feel comfortable doing that.”
Demi is not alone in this discovery. Dr. Brown found it true with every client he interviewed for his medical paper on the topic.
Demi did go further than most, even though the spontaneity of it helped. She was not only nude but had no makeup. Now, she has the advantage of youth, but still for a celebrity, that is bold. That is brave in the moment.
You don’t need to be at such a critical mass of change as Demi was to reap the benefits of a nude session. You don’t even need to do a full nude session to experience it.
It turns out doing this is powerful; the change, the empowerment, ripples through every aspect of your life. It is usually, like Demi’s experience, a totally unexpected side result of the reason you are thinking you are doing it.
I get to see the change in the four hours of our photography session arc. It is thrilling to watch the evolution.
Now when you do it, it might not rip through the Internet as a lead story, ramp up music sales or get you in talk show chairs. Mentioning your experience will turn heads, though. You will still feel the power that Demi was thrilled with.
Sarah laughed when, months after her session, she told me, when she is bored with a lagging coffee shop conversation, she casually mentions she just had nudes done at Inner Spirit. It’s an adrenalin hit to any conversation. Each time she mentions it, she says the whole feeling from the session rushes back.
Demi Lovato’s spontaneous bold moment will make a difference in many women’s lives as they follow the experience she is now talking about.