“My husband will never see these,” she explained, as she requested her selection of images be divided up into nude and lingerie covered collections. “He does not approve of me doing this. It does not matter though, it’s very important for me to have these.”
She is not alone in doing this.
For some women, their husbands and boyfriends don’t approve. For others, it’s just intensely private and personal; it’s images they don’t want to share or show. For both groups, though, it’s about the moment and their future.
For most of the women this starts, or becomes, an experience they want to share and celebrate with lots of excitement. They actually surprise themselves with how freely they show people their images.
There is a noticeably sized group of women who hold their images close to their hearts. They are as thrilled with the experience, and are as excited and amazed at how wonderful they look, as any other woman is. They got braver in front of the camera than they could imagine, and found the experience just as easy to do. Yet, their visual treasure remains in their personal drawer, occasionally shared with their closest girlfriend.
Sarah, whose boyfriend knew of her session because he bought it for her, described her reasons. “You created a private and safe place for me to experiment in, to be brave and to risk. To discover my full beauty, under my skin, looking at the images, I am always taken back there. I don’t want anyone else to come to my refuge, to have me explain or even talk about the images; I just want them to be. I tell and talk about the experience, but my images are a myth or legend perhaps, that only I can go to.”
She laughed when she told me that her will directs them to be buried with her unopened.
But for Karen, her husband just did not get it, was uncomfortable by the idea and could not grasp why it was important to her. It didn’t matter. The session, the experience, and the images, were not for him. They were something she had long wanted to do. She loves where she is at physically now, and wants the memory of it when she is older. She is sure the audacity of it will make her smile then.
He will likely never know she did nudes.
I am curious, though, if you came and had nudes done, would you tell anyone? Would you show your images to others?