Nude image of a woman photographed by Inner Spirit Photography Studio Calgary's Mark Laurie.

It was back then she was 19, a great looking new secretary for Playboy in London. She told me they approached her to be photographed. She was excited about it, but thought she should check with friends and family first. They were horrified, outlining all sorts of devastating results that were guaranteed to follow.

So Maggie declined.

She watched what happened to the girls that stepped up. None became acquainted with the dire set of consequences predicted. Their incomes bloomed, opportunities abounded, their stature increased. This was in the ’60s.

But her moment had passed.

It was a moment, she explained, that she has come to always regret. In the aftermath, she created a resolve. To never let the fears of others defeat her choices. She would consider good advisements, but never be a slave to them.

Not that she dwells on it, but she does occasionally reminisce and wonder what shape her life would have taken if she had been bold that day. She loosely kept aware of the girls around her then that did, and near as she can tell, their bold confidence served them well.

Now in her late 50s she was stepping, nude, in front of my lens. Fulfilling a dream she has had since then. Wistfully commenting she really should have done this in her twenties, but it’s never too late to enjoy the experience.

She was laughing as we talked. Her daughter – a striking, confident and clever girl – had approached her a while back with a similar question to the one that Maggie had asked her family years earlier. When Maggie told her to embrace all the opportunities of youth and consider doing it, it was not the expected advice.

The results of her daughter’s choice were everything that she thought hers could have been decades earlier.

I found it fascinating that she turned her regret into such a powerful tool that shaped her life since the revelation of what she should have done and why she did not. Not a lot of people do that. It does not really matter what the regret item was, it is the study of it and the power you gain when you resolve to never repeat how it happened.

Wishing they had come in for nudes or boudoir images in their youth is one of the most common regrets we hear. So I guess part of what we do is help recapture their youth.  Our most pleased clients are those we have photographed repeatedly since they first came in in their 20s. They have the images as milestones of their growth and change. It’s fascinating.

So think about it – what can you do now to erase the effects of a long past regret?

If you were invited to pose nude for Playboy, would you?

Posted by: Mark Laurie

World-renown photoartist Mark Laurie of Inner Spirit Photography specializes in Female Portraiture: nudes, boudoir, prenatal & fine art. His empowering images of women reveal their heart & soul.